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Rose Fox ([personal profile] rosefox) wrote2015-11-01 06:19 pm

"When I used to go out"

We've been reading and enjoying the Alphamom pregnancy calendar blog every week. This week it recommended a site called Rookie Moms that has suggestions for things to do with your baby, for moms (of course it's only for moms, non-mom parents don't exist) who would otherwise sit at home and be bored or panic or feel at a loss.

It is aimed at people who are... not us. A lot not us. It suggests doing things that we have no interest in doing now, like yoga classes and pedicures. We're certainly not going to want to start doing those things after the baby is born.

So here's my stab at a list of things we already like to do that we might also like to do with a baby in tow. Other suggestions welcome!

Exercise:

* Walk in the small park nearby, or along our street or Eastern Parkway.
* Once the baby can go on the subway, walk in Prospect Park. Maybe get a jogging stroller if J wants to take up jogging again.
* Go swimming or take an exercise class at the Bed-Stuy YMCA, which offers childcare for kids 6 months and up.

Socializing:

* Visit friends.
* Visit my mother.
* Have people over who like (or at least don't mind) hanging out with babies.
* Go to meetups for queer parents and families.
* Hang out with excellent people met on neighborhood parent mailing lists.
* Look into children's programming at the local library branch once it reopens (currently undergoing extensive renovation, probably open again in March-ish).
* Arrange a regular playdate with the downstairs kids.
* Maybe get a day pass to Stomping Ground and see whether it's a useful place to meet local parents and kids (alas for no longer living around the corner from there).

Entertainment:

* Take long walks and people-watch.
* Go to the library.
* Go to BBG.
* Go to the aquarium.
* Go to kid-friendly but not necessarily kid-oriented museums, music shows, and theater. (Kid-oriented can happen when the kid is older.)
* Picnic in the park.
* Go out to kid-tolerant restaurants.
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[personal profile] mrissa 2015-11-02 10:52 am (UTC)(link)
When I was very small--younger than 18 months old--there were infant and parent swimming classes at the Jewish community center, and my mother and I took them and apparently adored them. They do not make the infant able to swim independently! Anyone who offers such a thing is almost certainly wrong. But they gave us time together in the water, which my mother describes as wonderful, peaceful, amazing time, and the other people who wanted such a thing with their infants were apparently quite congenial. (People who see this comment and know me may be thinking, "I didn't know her family was Jewish." Quite true, we are not. The J was very deliberately doing community outreach, just as the YMCA quite often does not check for the C to be true of people before selling them memberships.)

I don't know what you have nearby for botanical gardens, but infants and parents alike often seem to find greenhouses/conservatories/indoor botanical gardens refreshing and calming in the cooler months. All the green, and the smell of plants, and different things to look at than are at home.
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[personal profile] mrissa 2015-11-02 07:56 pm (UTC)(link)
I sympathize: the public pools south of the river here are just dire. Mostly outdoors! What is this! What good does an outdoor pool do me ten months out of the year!
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[personal profile] amaebi 2015-11-02 01:06 pm (UTC)(link)
At home with newly-arrived Chun Woo I found audiobooks to be a lifesaver, FWIW.
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[personal profile] brooksmoses 2015-11-02 07:57 am (UTC)(link)
Morgan seems to rather enjoy going to the grocery store, so we generally take her along when we go (and have for a while). Likewise with the farmers market, in a backpack carrier, when she was young enough for that to be comfortable.
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[identity profile] caudelac.livejournal.com 2015-11-02 06:07 pm (UTC)(link)
If you go out to eat much at all, try doing it while the baby is super small. We started at about a week. It was really nice that ours was so used to being in a restaurant around people that he didn't fuss in public places until he was teething, and then going to fuss no matter what.

I tihnk you've hit most of my list.

[identity profile] avivasedai.livejournal.com 2015-11-02 09:32 pm (UTC)(link)
I did a lot of walking, grocery shopping, and after 6 months, library program for babies and eventually a swimming class - and let me tell you, the babies are chilling with their life vest or being held constantly, but I was exhausted after my first 30-minute class (as was he). Eating out: yup, he ate out with us the day before the brit, and a few times a month perhaps for the first while.

Other ideas: The big movie theater chain up here has a "Stars and Strollers" program where they show the regular run of movies in the daytime, catering it to parents with babies. I think they keep the lights a bit on, and everyone knows you have a kid so there are strollers and Boppy pillows and your kid can cry and everyone sympathizes instead of glares.

Zoo and aquarium! Animals are awesome, even when they can't be petted.

Re: I tihnk you've hit most of my list.

[identity profile] avivasedai.livejournal.com 2015-11-02 11:01 pm (UTC)(link)
I also like art, and I think that babies can respond to and enjoy different kinds of art, even if they're not touching it. I'm sure you've read up on developmental stuff, but you could start with high-contrast pieces in red/white/black (I'm thinking Mondrian art would be cool) and then move on to other colors.

(Then again, I kind of skipped the stage of sticking to only red/black/white and I'm pretty sure the baby didn't suffer in his eye development.)

Frankly, going to a park with the baby seems the most excellent idea. Fresh air, gets you/other adults out of the house, and once baby can focus on things further away than an arm's length, there's so much to see.